Reviewing the “Five things I know for sure on my 30th birthday” post a year later ⁠— including a new addition to the list.

A year ago I wrote a fairly popular piece called “Five things I know for sure on my 30th birthday“. If you’ve been following my journey, you’ll know that a lot has happened since I shared that article and I’ve recently been feeling curious about revisiting the content of the post, to see if I still have the same feelings I had back then, and with the idea that I’d like to take stock of where things stand, considering that I’m turning 31 in just a couple of days.

In case you also need a bit of a refresher, the list included the following points:

  1. Nothing is supposed to be any which way. I still believe this and if anything, this last year has reaffirmed the idea for me in multiple ways. Your career doesn’t have to be on a static trajectory. You don’t have to get married because everyone else is. You don’t have to feel like you’re “falling behind” because of what people project on social media. Hell, I started dating someone who lives on another continent and ended up travelling all the way there to pursue the relationship, which happens to be going very well and has given me a new perspective on the world we live in. Who said dating had to be traditional? Who says anything has to be?
  2. The rug can be pulled out from you at any time, and it will happen again and again. This is the kind of thing that will always be true. We’re a bit like seashells, constantly being swept up by the current, spat out to the shore, and drawn back into the water. We can only sit tight in the swell and wait for the comfort of the shore that follows. Something I would add to this would be to be appreciative of the days that contain minimal bother: they are the ones we should be thankful for and the ones that make the “rug pulling” more tolerable.
  3. Life’s pleasures come from the simple things. Nature, flowers, a smile, a glance, a hug… there is so much pleasure to be had from the little things and they are all around us. I’ve learned to pay better attention to it in this past year (my Instagram is a reflection of this for sure), and it is something I still believe in firmly as I approach my 31st birthday this weekend.
  4. Know yourself and stay true to that. This is something that happens over time and I think I feel a little bit differently about it now. I’d likely change it now to read Get to know yourself, and stay true to that person. I feel like I know myself a lot better since going on this self care journey and am still learning new things about myself each day. Life remains a process and a journey.
  5. Nothing is certain, except for change. There’s nothing else I can add here, except a loud ‘GUUUUURL‘ (not only cause I want to, but because I’d like to give some kind of a shout out to #Pride month too). This is something that I have to remind myself of each day, and it has become a key part of my gratitude practice. If you remind yourself that nothing is permanent each day, being thankful for what you have in this very moment becomes paramount. This runs deep in stoic and Buddhist philosophy, and is something I am learning about with a keen interest at the moment.

If I was writing this list for the first time now, I’d likely keep the same points, but I would add one more to the batch. Live with the faith that while things may get tough, your life is exactly where it is supposed to be, and is unfolding as it supposed to be. Trust in the difficult, especially because this is where you go through the most growth. Giving over and surrendering to the journey will not only reduce your anxiety, but will allow you to enjoy your days more, especially when it comes to the things in life that you hold most dear to your heart. Was that one, or three points? Regardless, I’m learning! Looking forward to revisiting this again in 2020.

– Conrad was here.

Published by Conrad Schwellnus

South African actively adding more joy and appreciation to his life since turning 30.

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